Hi Ashes, yes grinding methods are still a great source of debate, and the debate rages in the coffee world also. From the Indian perspective there are three methods of grinding, stone milled, burr milled, and smash milled. The first is using two stones and rub the spices between them, the fine powder is gently blown of if need be. The burr mill comprises two steel burred wheels or cones (similar to the pepper grinder in principle). The gap is set to permit the particles to be ground to the size you want. The smash grinder is your typical moulinex electric blade type.
What are the benefits? Well the first two produce a better cooler process and therefore the flavours are not damaged and the result will be a finer more flavoursome spice powder. However, the stone method is very slow and tasking, and the Spice Burr Mills cost a fortune and are very very expensive. The third type is cheaper, quicker, but does quite a lot of damage to the spice grains as it heats the spice up through friction and it produces a different shape of grain that can produce the grittines Ashes mentions. Years ago I was doing a Geology course and had to write an essay on the differences between and benefits of Desert and Sea sands. Years later an Indian friend (and scientist) related the sands to spices for me. If you need more info contact me but trust me this were smoothness lies.
Again Ashes is right in that you can test for grittiness to some degree with your fingers but it does depend on how sensitive your fingers are. I would also add that sometimes you want the spices coarsley ground for slow release of flavours.
How so you stop grittiness then? Well first you must slow fry the spices on a very very low heat and you must not let them catch. Also you can 'crack' the spices by adding an acidifier (see Spices in Hints & Tips). And as Ashes points out, if you uses a Moulinex type of grinder, only grind by pulsing in short bursts so that the spice keeps somewhat cool.
Hope this helps. Maybe it shoud go in hints and tips if you are OK with it.
CP