Firstly, regarding chives, I have found the same as Stew. I also thought that the little stalks in my special fried rice were chives but, upon looking more closely, I found that they were actually finely chopped coriander stalks. They were really sweet and tasty and seemed to have absorbed quite a lot of oil!
Secondly, regarding condensed milk. Same as John. I also use it in kormas and pasandas. It not only gives them a creamy sweetness, but it also gives them a similar texture to BIRs.....used fairly sparingly though, cos it's really thick, sweet, stuff! Not to be confused with evaporated milk though. I use this too.
Thirdy, I might just try using condensed milk in my tea as Layne describes
