Thanks for the replies folks, for me personally I like the kick a hot curry gives you, apparently hot chilli's make your body release endorphins, that's why people need a weekly fix. Nothing to do with Bravado, I eat them hot even when I'm on my own.
After eating bland food like pie and chips, scampi, chicken in a basket etc for my first 20 odd years a chicken madras was a revelation and I've been hooked ever since. If I have a kebab I have to put my own chilli sauce on because the shops stuff is not hot enough if I have a pizza I have to put tabasco (not my favourite, I don't like vinegar based sauces) or dried chilli flakes on the top.
I have had hot curry's with plenty of flavour but not from near where I live hence me being on here trying to learn how to make a decent curry.
Because I like it hot and many people don't like it as hot as me, I like to jazz it up a bit at the end, in the past I've chucked chilli powder in at the end but I can taste the graininess in it but now it seems that's because there wasn't much oil in my curry.
I've tried plenty of traditional curry recipes and they've always said to fry the spices either first or with the onion right at the beginning, so it seems totally alien to me to add it into the gravy, which is why I'm asking so many questions about it all.
I do like green chillis added at the end of cooking spiceyokooko but find them too raw, maybe I'm adding them too near the end and ought to cook them longer, or maybe you like the rawness.
I've not thought of putting dried chilli flakes on the table Chonk, well not for a curry anyway, I'll try that myself, how do you make homemade chilli flakes?
Thanks for taking the time to reply everyone.