And now I'm going to add even more confusion with another conflicting viewpoint ;D
I would say that family and friends are IDEAL, when it comes to getting an honest opinion of one of our dishes, as Spiceyokooko shows with his dad.
I know that all my brothers and sisters are very blunt and straight talking and call a spade a spade. Most of my friends are the same. If my bro in law says to me that my bhuna is the best he's ever tasted, I know that that is what he believes. This is the guy that told me on my wedding day (to my 1st wife) that she wasn't what you'd call a stunner is she?

and she wasn't (neither was I though :

)
The other thing to remember about family and friends is, they are mostly local to you and therefor, there is a very good chance that their tastes are very similar to your own with regards to BIR/TA dishes. When they make nice comments, they are infact measuring them (the curries) against the same/similar yardstick as yourself!
On the other hand, having your dishes judge by a fellow amateur chef, from a different area, with a different goal than your own, is fraught with problems. "The Madras has got lemon juice in it but it doesn't have it in my fav TA", is just one example of how wrong it can go. The regional differences will always be the hurdle to get over and that's never going to happen, IMO. The only way a member will ever tick all the boxes for everyone is to make a dish that is the best that anyone has ever tasted, regardless of how it compares to the same dish from your region, somehow, I can't ever see that happening......can you?
Ray
